A boy I knew in high school approached me the other day. At first, I didn't even recognize him because he was a completely different person now from the one I remembered. The person I knew was quiet, walked with his head down and very rarely asked for attention to be drawn towards himself. But the recent one who stood before me seemed independent, with his head held high, and he even talked with a full voice. He called for my attention out of the crowd; something that never would've happened five years ago. It's refreshing to see people who have the bravery and strength to find themselves.
Part of growing up is realizing confidence in one's self. Gaining a healthy self-esteem is all a part of noticing who you are inside. Jessica Stevenson from About.com listed 6 tips for peer conversation which will help any person become confident and secure in social situations.
1. Take a deep breath. Staying relaxed is key in being able to look another person in the eye.
2. Take an inventory of strengths. Finding inner skills and taking stock of the things a person is interested in will help him or her feel more positive during conversation.
3. Realize limits. No one is perfect, but realizing one's own perspective on the world will be valuable in social situations.
4. Stop putting yourself down. This one is self-explanatory. Someone with a negative outlook on life will always have negative results in life.
5. Celebrate progress and small victories. Every person needs to remember that if he or she can accomplish one thing, he or she can accomplish even bigger and more challenging situations as well.
6. Pat yourself on the back. Why not? If a person can't do it to his or herself, no one else will either.
Bottom line, stay positive and remember that with a little self-confidence, anything is possible. You may surprise people, and possibly even surprise yourself.
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